Getting ahead in life isn't a zero sum game
Humans are naturally diverse. We all exist somewhere on a spectrum of abilities, talents and challenges. Statistically speaking half the population falls below average on any given skill, and half above - it’s simple mathematics, not judgement.
What does this really mean? It means many people will struggle with tasks you find easy and vice versa. But this gap in abilities should not be seen as a barrier. It’s an opportunity.
The real secret to advancing in the world is not just your ability - it’s how well you undestand systems.
Looking down on others counts yourself out on a lot of action before you begin.
You stand to gain a lot of power from those you deem ‘below average’ - than you realise.
And those you percieve as ‘way above you’?
While they might hold high positions but they’re just human like everyone else.
You’d be surprised how easily they can be knocked off their perch with a bit of mongrel.
Your real job isn’t to worry about a position on the ladder.
Your best bet might be to build your own ladder.
Here’s some ideas to get you started:
Understanding different perspectives is a game-changer
Recognising that everyone approaches situations differently isn't just about being nice — it’s pure play strategy. Genuinely empathising with other peoples positions, puts you in a much stronger position to build relationships.
Here’s some things you can do:
- Accomodate a colleague that needs extra time to process information.
- Talk to a high achieving friend who might feel burnt out; or
- Empathise with a fellow worker that might be dealing with the challenges of young children and/or ageing parents.
When someone pisses you off next time, stop and ask the question:
- What might be happening with this person to cause that behaviour?
Often you’ll identify something going on you weren’t aware of. Only then you can help.
Conclusion
Empathy isn't just a moral virtue, it's a practical skill that can significantly impact your personal and professional success.
By understanding and connecting with others, you position yourself to build stronger networks, resolve conflicts more effectively, and create opportunities that might otherwise remain hidden.
Here are concrete actions you can take starting today:
- Practice active listening in your next three conversations. Focus completely on understanding before responding.
- Identify one colleague or friend who seems to be struggling and reach out with a specific offer of support.
- When facing disagreement, pause and consciously try to see the situation from the other person's perspective.
- Create a habit of asking thoughtful questions that help you understand others' experiences better.
- Recognise and acknowledge when someone has a skill or perspective you lack, and approach them with genuine curiosity.
Empathy isn't about sacrificing your own goals. It’s about recognising that meaningful success includes lifting others as you climb.
The most effective leaders understand that true influence comes not from dominance but from connection.